Do you live in WHAT IFs?





Several years ago, I meet the most perfect man.  He is like no other person I have met.  He makes me better, stronger and smarter.  He relit the light inside of me and I started living again. He taught me a lot of things, but one of the biggest lessons was to face my fears.



I have been put in several situations where I was forced to face my fears.  I remember thinking I couldn’t do it.  The very first time, I remember thinking I would throw up and the world would end if I just faced this fear and pushed over the edge. I was so terrified of what would happen if I faced this. BUT, afterwards, the world didn’t fall apart.  I realized in that moment, that we never know what can happen until we try.  If we don’t try, we will always ask ourselves, What If….


My perfect man, knight in shining armor, has no fear.  He doesn’t care what others will think.  If he wants to do something, he does.  He lives life.  That has been such a lesson to me.  I still get scared to face fears, still worry about what others will say, but it is getting easier to go after what I want.

A year and half ago, I made the decision to move me and my children 5 states north of all our friends and family.  I needed a change in my life.  I needed to make my children’s life better. So many people told me that they couldn’t believe I would do that.  They kept saying over and over that a single mom and her children should not move off and be alone.  Everyone kept asking, “What if it doesn’t work out? What if you fail?”  My answer…….. “If it doesn’t work out, I can do something different.”  I faced the fear, I moved me and my kids. I took a chance.  I knew if it didn’t work out, I could change my course and do something different.  BUT, if it did work, I would have a whole new, happy life.  Well….. It did work out.  It was the greatest decision I ever made.  I am so glad that I faced that fear.  I am so grateful that I made that choice.



Facing fears can be horrible.  Fears can be paralyzing.  But if you can push through the fear, sometimes you find the greatest blessings on the other side of fear. Don’t spend a life time asking yourself WHAT IF.  Instead, face the fears.  The world won’t fall apart if you do.  I promise.

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